- “Not only might filler words be inevitable, it’s possible they’re actually a useful part of our linguistic evolution. In fact, they might even be beneficial, at least according to some of the science.”
- “Garbage language can also smooth the edges of difficult interactions or help people save necessary face…Why is it such a problem if we show compassion this way in a business setting?”
“Don’t Add Your 2 Cents” | Derek Sivers
- Keep your two cents if “your contribution is small and probably just a meaningless opinion… Let the other person feel full ownership of the idea, instead.”
“15 Texts You Can Send Someone Instead of Ghosting Them” | Thought Catalog
“5 Words and Phrases That Can Transform Your Work Life” | Fast Company
- “The good news…is that by swapping simple words and phrases for others we can quickly—and permanently—produce positive behavioral changes.”
- The central insight in Sarah Schulman’s Conflict Is Not Abuse is that “people experiencing the inevitable discomfort of human misunderstanding often overstate the harm that has been done to them—they describe themselves as victims rather than as participants in a shared situation. And overstating harm itself can cause harm, whether it leads to social shunning or physical violence.”
“How—and Why—to Reclaim Your Slurs” | Wear Your Voice
- Slur reclamation as a radical act
- Understanding who can reclaim
- “I like the freedom and flexibility” and more go-to responses for friends (or strangers) who question your decision to be a freelancer.
“How to Write an Apology (and Avoid Non-Apologies)” | Grammar Girl
“If You Say This During an Apology, You’re Doing It Wrong” | The Huffington Post
- Your word choice makes it obvious you’re #sorrynotsorry.
“It’s Finally Time to Stop Correcting People’s Grammar, Linguist Says” | The Huffington Post
- “Language isn’t some delicate cultural artifact but an integral part of being human… Language—which all human societies have in immense grammatical complexity—is far more interesting than pedantry.”—Oliver Kamm, “reformed stickler” and author of “Accidence Will Happen”
“My Magic Response to ‘Hey, Can I Pick Your Brain?'” | Stacking Bricks
- Emails written at a third-grade reading level with simpler words and fewer words per sentence were considered optimal.
“The Psychological Power of Reclaiming Oppressive Language” | The Huffington Post
“Repossession: Reclaimed Slurs and Lexicography” | Harmless Drudgery
- The power of words to denigrate a group of people
- The riskiness of slur reclamation
- The impossibility of adequately capturing a slur’s usage in a dictionary
- Part of conscious language is knowing when to say nothing.
“Talking About Failure Is Crucial for Growth. Here’s How to Do It Right.” | The New York Times
“Three Questions to Ask Instead of Saying ‘Nice Job’” | Fast Company
- “Saying ‘Great!’ doesn’t tell the person what they did or why it worked. Yet, when we criticize someone, we get very specific about what they’re doing wrong. Why not take the same approach with giving praise?”
“27 Alternatives to Asking ‘Is This Okay?’” | Asking for What You Want
- “You need different, more precise questions to ask, ones that actually get at the thing you want to know.”
- “Sometimes people say yes when they’re caught off guard.”
- “Using the word ‘together’ is a powerful way of building a community.”
“Warning Kids About Digital Privacy Doesn’t Work. Here’s What Does.” | Consumer Reports
“Why I Don’t Shield My Team From Bad News” | Fast Company
- On transparency as a core value.
“Why Questions (Good and Bad) Matter” | The Conversation
- “Asking questions is not just for kids or students or philosophers. Everybody needs to inquire critically and to be tolerant of the apparent ignorance of others.”
“Why the C-Word Is So Taboo, and Why Some Women Want to Reclaim It” | The Washington Post
“Why You Should Put a Little More Thought into Your Out-of-Office Message” | Harvard Business Review