How Sexist Language Hurts Men

Stereotyping one gender means simultaneously stereotyping another.

By Karen Yin • July 7, 2016


Nonsexist language usually involves changing language to include women, such as avoiding the false generic he, making occupational titles like businessman gender-neutral, avoiding unnecessary gender markers such as women lawyers, and not assuming that your readership is male. In the process, we inadvertently ignore the repercussions of sexist language for men, even though stereotyping one gender means simultaneously stereotyping another.

When articles and ads favor mothers, fathers are disrespected as caretakers, which affects custody battles, divorce hearings, and paternity-leave options. When occupations are gendered, it reinforces the myth that gender determines capacity, capability, and even disposability, such as when physically dangerous jobs are reserved for men.

Falling back on stereotypes allows them to flourish.

Consider these tips for gender-neutral language with men (and boys) in mind:

  • Be a man, man up: Avoid language that suggests that to “be a man” requires men to hide their feelings or express only masculinized emotions, such as anger.
  • Male nurse, man bun: Avoid “man words” and male gender markers if they imply that certain occupations, fashions, and behaviors are inherently feminine. However, we want biased words when the bias is relevant, and mansplaining and manspreading address male privilege in ways that explaining and spreading cannot.
  • Violence: Using male pronouns when talking about abusers makes it harder for male survivors to speak up about female aggressors.
  • Friendship: Don’t sexualize close friendships between men. This can discourage emotional connections and fuel homophobia and biphobia.
  • Orientation: Don’t assume that men have or want a female partner.
  • Anatomy: Don’t assume that women are the only people who can become pregnant. Include others (for example, transgender men with uteruses) by using gender-neutral terminology, like reproductive health instead of women’s health.

An editor’s responsibility is to flag biases that don’t accurately represent the wider spectrum of human experience. Falling back on stereotypes allows them to flourish.

Karen has long wavy hair and is smiling into the camera. She's wearing a gray T-shirt and an aquamarine pendant.Karen Yin is the author of the upcoming book Conscious Language (Little, Brown Spark) and founder of Conscious Style Guide, a resource for inclusive, empowering, and respectful language; Editors of Color, tools for diversifying your staff and sources; and AP vs. Chicago, an irreverent language blog for anyone who “gives a dollar sign, ampersand, exclamation point, and pound sign about style.” She received the 2017 ACES Robinson Prize for furthering the craft of professional editing.

Note: This article originally appeared in Copyediting newsletter and is reproduced with permission from the Pilcrow Group.

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