Rethinking Courtesy Titles in Obituaries | Conscious Style Guide
When we die, we lose much of our say in how we want our lives, achievements, and identities framed in obituaries—that power is given to editors and journalists, who often follow industry norms.
Even though most U.S. publications have stopped using courtesy titles, exceptions are sometimes made for obituaries, where Mr., Ms., and so on are used to show respect. For example, Philly.com, the website for The Philadelphia Inquirer and Philadelphia Daily News, generally does not use honorifics; however, in a 2018 obit for legendary Philadelphia Eagles player Tommy McDonald, an honorific was used—for him and no one else. Honorifics also hold a precious place in certain cultural contexts, such as racial or regional. Using titles in the South, for example, can be a matter of respect and even racial equality. Read more
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Changing the Conversation, One Word at a Time: How Professional Organizations Are Pushing for Changes in the AP Stylebook—and Beyond | Center for Journalism Ethics
“I’m trying to push critical thought more. There are no simple answers. You need to just live conscious language.” —Karen Yin, founder, Conscious Style Guide
From the World of Conscious Language
Words You’ll Never See Me Use in Restaurant Reviews | San Francisco Chronicle
“If caring about other people means I have to find a better and more creative word than ‘addictive’ to describe how good a bag of chips is, I’m fine with the small inconvenience of that.”
My Column’s Name Does a Disservice to the Immigrants Whose Food I Celebrate. So I’m Dropping It.| The Washington Post
“By writing about immigrant cuisines under a cheap-eats rubric, I have perpetuated the narrative that they should always be thought of as budget-priced.”
Stop Calling Food “Plantation” | Munchies
“Even if accidental, ‘plantation’ dishes and products add to a legacy of fictionalized history that seeks to erase hundreds of years of human trafficking, torture, rape, and forced labor without erasing any of the pain or generational inequities that resulted.”
“I can’t repost sensationalized pictures of thin, white women hovering over bathroom scales…because they reinforce harmful myths about eating disorders.”
Media Outlets Routinely Present a Distorted Picture of Communities of Color. It’s Time for a Change. | Poynter
“Newsrooms have a responsibility to bridge the gaps on all fronts by including people of color in the workplace, but also educating the current staff members on diversity and inclusion so that communities of color are fairly and accurately represented in the media.”
Stop Calling Asian Women Adorable | The New York Times
“A continuing unwillingness to recognize Asian people as full human beings” is also “in even the most progressive corners of this country, an acceptable variety of racism, one that dresses up its violence in praise.”
“If you’re a person who understands ‘racism’ primarily as unjust arrangements of power and their consequences, then never reading ‘racism’ when reporting on a country that’s built and defined by white supremacy can feel like an abdication of journalistic responsibility.”
What Journalists Miss When They Ignore History | Donald W. Reynolds Journalism Institute
“Understand that every story has a history that goes further back than the last 48 hours.”
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Why Business Jargon Isn’t All Bad | Harvard Business Review
English professor Anne Curzan “shares how to use jargon more deliberately, explains the origin of some annoying or amusing buzzwords, and discusses how English became the global business language and how that could change.”
Can a Nice Doctor Make Treatments More Effective? | The New York Times
“The simple things a doctor says and does to connect with patients can make a difference for health outcomes. Even a brief reassurance to a patient from a doctor might relieve the patient’s symptoms faster.”
Toward Changing the Language of Creative Writing Classrooms | Literary Hub
“I’m not convinced that my way of teaching is ideal. But I am convinced that we can teach creative writing without the language of failure or success, criticism or praise, and that doing so will help us avoid reproducing systemic oppressions, damaging students psychologically, and stunting creative work.”
When Writing Fantasy, Black Magic Matters, Says Zetta Elliott | The Toronto Star
“Ultimately tales of magic teach us about power, and all of our children deserve to see themselves saving the world.”
“There is a tendency to classify women as young adult or middle grade authors, despite the actual content of their books.”
How the Word “Queer” Was Adopted by the LGBTQ Community | Columbia Journalism Review
“‘Queer’ has expanded beyond meaning only ‘homosexual.’ In fact, ‘queer’ does not have a single meaning, except perhaps ‘not heterosexual.’”
Increasing Visibility of Non-Conforming Gender Communities in Stock Photos | Columbia Journalism Review
Lindsay Schrupp, editor in chief of Vice’s Broadly, and her Broadly colleagues “created a stock photo library with images of transgender and non-binary people, to increase the visibility of those communities.”
From the Archives
Why We Should Examine Our Culinary Vocabulary | Conscious Style Guide
“It wouldn’t be terribly difficult to build and sustain a food world that is more conscious about inclusive language. It would have to start, though, with our intention to consider our word choices.”
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Steve Kleinedler Joins Conscious Style Guide’s Advisory Council | Conscious Style Guide
“I am honored to join the Conscious Style Guide advisory council. I have long championed awareness of how word choice has an effect on other people. Editors and writers play such an important role in shaping public discourse, and the CSG gives them the necessary tools to foster civility, empathy, and compassion in their work.” ―Steve Kleinedler, editor, author, lexicographer, and new member of the CSG advisory council
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